…even though you still are.
The book “Room” is so extraordinary that, even though it is full of words (as a book ought to be), words truly fail it. It is heartrending, thoughtful, visceral and unforgettable. It is a love story and it is one that will break your heart open, empty it out and then fill it right back up.
Jack, his Ma, their captor and their saviours, created by Emma Donoghue, are all part of an unforgettable landscape and populate the imagination with horror and then, slowly but certainly, redemption. The book and now the film remind us that we are, at the end of the day, all Jack’s, locked in our respective rooms. Whether we are trapped by geography, by circumstance or by some other mysterious fortune of fate we all have to use our imaginations, our hearts, our wisdom and our creativity to find a way out of our room and into the light.
‘Tis the season for giving to be on most of our minds. For example, we may think about the parties we are going to give or the presents we are going to give — we are just thinking about give, give, giving all of the dang time. It is hard work.
But…is that really and truly the spirit of giving? At bringforth the goal is to keep it real, and, in the spirit of doing that, the only real answer to that particular question would seem to be…not really…not in the really, real sense.
Fortunately though, there remain people in the world who do really and truly embody the spirit of giving and they do this by really and truly giving of themselves.
The guys behind 2 GUYS, 4 WHEELS, 1 CAUSE get the true spirit of giving in a majorly true way. So, major in fact that come May 2016 they will be embarking on a coast-to-coast bike ride across Canada in the name of raising awareness, and money, for Huntington’s Disease. How awesome, monumental and cool is that? Answer: awesome, monumental and cool.
The truth is not all of us can, or, would even want to endeavour something like this, and, that is okay, not all of us have too. What we can do though, in whatever ways we can, is ride (yes, that is intended!) on the bike riding coattails of these two amazing guys and their four wheels and try to embody, even a little bit, that same true spirit of giving. It’s a beautiful thing — any time, of any year.
It is not a goal, for most people, to spend more time than is absolutely necessary pondering the Kardashian-Jenner’s or why they do what they do. Reason being that their reasons for doing most things they do are actually quite simple and require virtually no time at all. Here is a brief list: fame, power, money, attention. There, that pretty much sums it up.
So, Kylie Jenner has posed in a gilded wheelchair. Why? Please see above. But the fact that she did it (and this is a minority opinion): love, love, love it! The pictures are not particularly provocative or stunning. In fact, the most shocking thing is just how plastic young KingKylie looks, but, as wheelchair user, the fact that she in a wheelchair, is so, so refreshing. It is for a few reasons, chief among them, placing a wheelchair in the mainstream and via a fashion magazine no less — well, that is just fabulous. Also, Kylizzle may not look great but the wheelchair sure as hell does. Rather than looking clunky, pedantic, black, plastic and full of nuts and bolts it looks sleek, futuristic and, almost, royal. It is gorgeous.
It is so gorgeous in fact that this author almost wept. A highly sexualized woman, a pop culture phenomenon being placed in a wheelchair? Newsflash: happens everyday. The world over. Highly sexual women (and men) who are attractive, bright, popular (in their own right), the list goes on and on, are in wheelchairs right now. They just are not seen, necessarily, as attractive, bright, popular (in their own right), or, really much of anything else. And that is the bigger problem. The flaw in the design. This needs to not be about Kylie Jenner as she needs not one more thing to be about her. It also needs to not be about her not being disabled but still being in a wheelchair. It needs to not be about those things because: what, in fact, is a disability and who says Kylie Jenner does not have one? What this conversation needs to be about is the fact that there are Kylie Jenner’s (i.e. young, attractive, etc.) individuals in wheelchairs rolling around all over the place and that this SO MUCH bigger than Kylie who, by the way, did not conceive any part of this photo shoot. It is about what images like these have awakened in us as a culture.
Any other part of this conversation is boring and lame and presupposes we know what a disability is and who needs what as a result. This is not about a wheelchair or who has a ‘right’ to use one. It never was. It is about how we perceive wheelchairs and the people who use them. Kylie Jenner can be a wheelchair user as much as this author is with the only obvious difference being that she does not (it seems) technically need one. But, who cares about that because anytime a wheelchair and wheelchair users can be so mainstream that the actual wheelchair is no longer a thing, that is awesome. So, roll on Kylie. Roll on.
“It is only shallow people who require years to get rid of an emotion. A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure. I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.”
– Oscar Wilde –